Question asked by S.
Dear Pastors,
Thank you very much for giving this oportunity. I have a very personal question. Due to the point that beeing in a realationship is a kind of dependence or attachment- i really would like to have a new relationship, a person to share my life and have children with. I am single for a long time. I do my daily practice and try to help others but I now get lost of my resources and become a kind of alone. I hope it is fine with you that this question is not really a dharma theme. Thank you very much
Dear S,
Thank you for your question. From a Buddhist perspective, we aim to curb our attachments to progress on the spiritual path towards enlightenment. The most common example of this would be the community or monks and nuns. That being said however, it is not necessarily a negative thing to be in a relationship, but we must strive to make it work and make it a positive one. That is why His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche gave a very powerful teaching on relationships that you can read here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/students-friends/ingredients-for-a-successful-relationship.html. There is also another good post with some nice quotes, for you to read to make sure you enter a future relationship with the right mind set: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/some-thoughts-on-love-relationships.html
Whilst there are no practices in Tibetan Buddhism that can draw a romantic relationship, since this is generally marked by attached, which is the opposite of the higher Buddhist practices, there are some practices that can help. Generally, Green Tara is very good for increasing harmony within already existing relationships, you can find some prayers here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/wp-content/uploads/prayers/Praisestothe21Taras.pdf this is a prayer to the 21 forms of Tara.
In regards to regaining resources, and having enough material resources to live well, you can engage in the practice of Gyenze. You can find that practice here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/dorje-shugden-gyenze-to-increase-life-merits-and-wealth.html. I hope this helps. Please do feel free to ask more questions here, we are very much happy to provide a reply.
Thank you.