Question asked by A Worried Friend
Dear Pastors,
It came to my knowledge recently that one of my very good friend is suffering from depression and is going through a really unhappy period in her marriage. I was also told of the various failed relationships with men and sexual escapades of this dear friend of mine. I am concerned as to whether her various relationship entanglements will form karmic effects in her next lifetimes. Besides from that, I was saddened by the information that she had aborted her baby from one of the failed relationships. I am extremely worried for her as she seems to be accumulating more and more bad karma in this lifetime.
Is there anything that I can do for her baby that she has aborted (eg prayers, sharing of merits)? I would like to encourage her to have the right frame of mind and actions but with her mental state now, she is unable to do.
Dear A Worried Friend,
Out of ignorance, many people focus on having a relationship and think that it will bring them happiness. When it does not work out, there is much suffering. You can help your friend by bringing Dharma into her life. Explain to her that the worldly pleasure we experience in ordinary relationships does not last and is not real happiness. It is something we crave in order to overcome our loneliness. If possible, take her to Buddhist Dharma talks and buy her some Dharma books to read.
For the aborted baby, it would be good to have a puja done at Kechara’s puja house. You can call this number: +603 78033908 and make enquiries at our Front Desk regarding the puja.