Question asked by Jason
Lately when I'm dealing with my sister and I get angry …. I turn very dark…. It's to the point where I have wished physical , and mental harm on her. I have even thought of getting a witch to fix her.
I know this is not Buddhist but my hatred of her is that great. She is the only person that I know that evokes such feeling of hate and blackness in me . My age it 21 and my sister is 20
Dear Jason,
It is very important to overcome your feelings of anger because it is a great obstacle to happiness. Anger is one of the root poisons. When you feel angry, it is actually your problem, not your sister’s. What you need to do is to understand and transform your anger. Establish a good relationship with your sister. Do not wait for her to change. YOU change by being more patient, considerate and caring. Listen to her problems, and be generous, both physically and emotionally. Think of her qualities, not of her faults. I’m sure anger is not the only thing you feel for your sister. Read Tsem Rinpoche’s books and watch the DVDs (eg. Snakes, Roosters and Pigs)that deal with negative emotions. Remember, our unhappiness is caused by ourselves alone. Happiness comes from others.