Question asked by Jeffrey
Dear Pastor, I am dealing with a very beloved elderly aunt in our household who is rapidly losing touch with "reality" and invents situations and gets very angry if one does not believe her statements. I try to be compassionate, but also try to be truthful to her or just keep silent, which is often met with extreme anger. I dedicate merit of my practice to her, but beyond that, what is the best way to help her that is consistent with following the dharma.
Dear Jeffrey,
In your aunt’s case, I think it is better to get proper medical help. Do what you can for her, physically. Discuss her condition with the doctor and seek advice on how to alleviate her suffering. I’m glad you have the Dharma knowledge and practice to support you in this difficult time. Now is the time to remember her kindness to you. Be kind and patient with her as she is suffering from an illness that makes her lose her memory. It is not her fault. Read up and find out how to deal with patients who have this disease. Your Dharma background will help you tide over this difficult period of your life.