Question asked by Shan
Dear Pastor,
I am from India and from past 2 years I have moved to Canada. I cam here with the intension of making my career and I thought I would live my life more peacefully and will enjoy my freedom. But everything got changed adversly since I came here. I am in a very bad mental condition. I don't feel anything except depression, negativity and sadness. I am just surviving here and I don't remember even a day when I was happy here in Canada. I have totally forgot what mental peace feels like, I don't remember how it feels to be fully happy and joyful. I am living alone here without my friends and family. All the time I feel so lonely and disconnected from everyone. I feel like I am alone in this whole world and no one is there for me. I just have formal relations with people here. I don't have anybody whom I can call mine. I am dealing with this loneliness all alone and now I am really frustrated and fade up.
I just want one permanent relation here so that I can live life fully. How can I attract a positive and permanent relation in my life?
I hope you can help me with this.
Thank You !
Dear Shan,
Thank you for your message. I am very sorry to hear you are going through this. Since you need some form of good relation with others, it’s hard to do this when you are in a negative frame of mind, depressed etc. The only way you will be able to successfully do so is if you actually work on getting you out of the negative state you are in.
One of the best ways to do this is to engage in the daily practice of Lama Tsongkhapa. This practise is very well known for helping us to overcome negative states of mind, such as depression. When you have overcome this, then you will be able to built positive relationships with others.
You can watch Tsem Rinpoche explain more about the practice here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/sayonara-to-depression.html
If the way your feeling is also due to financial difficulties, you can combine the practice of Lama Tsongkhapa Guru Yoga with the practice of Gyenze, which is available here: https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/prayers-and-sadhanas/dorje-shugden-gyenze-to-increase-life-merits-and-wealth.html
I hope all of this helps you and you are able to get over your negative state of mind soon.