Hatred
From TheBuddhism.Net
Hatred, ill will or anger is that tendency within us which resents an action of another which challenges our right to what we desire. Our general tendency is to try and dominate others, and we want others to obey our will while suppressing their own; so when someone opposes his will against ours, our action is like that of a dog with a bone when another dog approaches.
Though absence of hatred is a grand thing, it is not enough unless its active aspect is emphasized – that is, loving-kindness. Not to evil is very good, but it is only a negative aspect. To do good is the positive aspects.
We become irritated in many ways, and although our irritation may be slight, if it is allowed to go on day by day it will grow into a deep hatred. Wherever there is displeasure, there is ill will in a subtle or gross way.
Some people are proud to speak of ‘My anger’, but anger can never be justified, because it harms the producer as well as others.
If we do anything with hatred with hatred, inevitably we shall have a bad, unpleasant result which we cannot change, either by prayers, wishes or desire, it will produce its effect.
When a man is angry he is ‘beside himself’, as the saying goes, being swept along by a torrent of hatred. it is due to this anger that disputes arise between one individual and another, between one nation and another. Such people as are blinded by anger cannot see that ‘hatred ceaseth not by hatred, but by love’. Some people may doubt as to whether love can be a basis of policy for settlement, but true love is not what some people look upon as a soft feminine virtue, it is a masculine dynamic power which breaks all the barriers which separate beings from one another.
Strong anger is anger with which we do unpleasant things, speak harsh, abusive words and do destructive actions. Sorrow is a form of weak anger which we often hide so that others will not know of it, but inwardly it creates turmoil within us and if harboured for long can cause us to be ill, become weak.
Grieving sorrow, is very destructive, one should not allow oneself to be sorry. Weeping, by nature, is anger, and although people say it is natural to weep over the death of a dear one and they cannot help it, it is not an excuse for allowing an evil state of consciousness to arise. The loss of a beloved one is a great loss; but by weeping, being sorry, we lose our good moral consciousness, therefore we have a double loss. If we have to lose something, the wiser thing is to lose once, not twice.
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Hatred is something that we are having to deal with more nowadays as our environment creates situations where we experience with higher intensity, thinking that someone wronged us. Everything is instant gratification and the same with hatred with resulting revenge/anger, an instant explosion of anger which we regret the moment its over. But by then the person would have felt hurt and they would have that memory imprinted in them. How could our regretful sorry even begin to compensate? So it is always best to practice in mindfully catching our hatred/anger before it goes further. Realize it is basically our pride or ego that is hurt and let go. I had never bothered hating anyone but from here I learned that sorrow and weeping is passive anger. Now I will need to re-examine my own psych. Thank you Rinpoche for always sharing articles that challenge ourselves to think further.
The old “hatred is bad” mantra – how tedious.
Nature, the grand and beautiful design of the universe, is violence, chaos, death, disorder, decay, and pain. It is also love and compassion and so forth, but you, and your ilk, are delusional children hiding from half the truth of existence because it scares you.
Hatred is a deep and extreme emotional dislike which can be directed against individuals or can be anything. Hatred is often associated with feelings of anger towards hostility. When we hate someone we are causing problems ,hurting ourselves in fact. Never waste a minute thinking about people you don’t like and hate . We should let go, what is past is past. Having a compassionate, loving and caring attitude for all sentient beings will help us to move on , which will lead us to happiness. Thank you for sharing.
It is easy for us to get angry or hate certain situation as we always plant our perceptions on everything. When things don’t turn out to be at our own will , we get angry and blame others. This is a very bad action and it is something that we should learn to avoid. When we keep planting negative thoughts, our action will be negative and people around us will feel the negative energy too. Therefore, we should instead plant positive seeds like compassion, love and care for everyone.
“An idea is like a virus. Resilient. Highly contagious. And even the smallest seed of an idea can grow. It can grow to define or destroy you.” ~ Inception (the movie)
What we feed our mind will eventually manifest. If we feed it anger and hatred, it will brew and in time manifest in various harmful ways. If we feed on loving-kindness, it will also inevitably manifest in various beneficial ways.
I’ve never realized sorrow can also be classified as a form of anger but it makes sense. Anger by nature is a very selfish emotion. Someone told me once that crying is a very selfish emotion and it has always been stuck in my head. Makes me more alert of myself and see a part of myself that I don’t like. I know the next is so you know, then what? Awareness is a first step but it cannot stop there. The next step is planting the seed, the idea of loving-kindness.
Anger and Hatred will create more harm to us than the people who are the object of our hatred and anger. The people who are harmed get harm this at this moment, but we because of our anger and harm, we deposit more negative karma to suffer not only for what we have no, we deposite more seeds that will ripen in the future.