5 Ways You Can Support Your Dying Parent

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Dear friends,

This article is very practical and helpful. I respectfully reproduced it here solely with the intent it will benefit others. I thank Ms. Patricia Seeley for her compassionate work and her writings. She makes the most important passage in our lives more easier to deal with for the ordinary lay person. Both the dying and those who are witness to this, our state of mind is the most important. Therefore very important to develop this now while we have the chance. Thank you.

Tsem Rinpoche

 

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 5 Ways You Can Support Your Dying Parent

By Patricia Seeley, M.S,
Director, The Center of Awareness

Death is a subject most people do not like to hear about, think about or talk about. It seems to be a scary unreality of sorts. Yet before we face our own death, most likely we will face the deaths of our friends and / or family first. When these deaths are unexpected, dealing with them seems that much harder. Why – because we are not prepared.

We live in a constant state of fear and denial about death, so when it happens we are unable to really appreciate what the experience has to offer. After all, death makes life possible and if there was no death – none of us would be here. That in itself makes me give a lot of respect to the dying process.

Death and dying can be a time of deepening of our love and faith and a recommitment to the spiritual beliefs and practices that are useful in guiding us along the way. Death is the only doorway that can help us gain insight into the true nature of all things.

Recently my Mother passed away and as I look back on the experience of her decline into illness and dementia, I can honestly say that I am grateful to have had the opportunity to care for her and witness her final days on this Earth. Of course there was a lot of emotional pain for both of us – including regrets – and for me the jolting realization of my own mortality seemingly not too far in the distant future.

 

There are two unhealthy attitudes most people have towards death. One is to be frightened because there is the belief that we do not exist after this life. The other is a more flippant or even sarcastic attitude about death – as if it will be easy to handle when it arrives.

My Mom was more frightened of death than flippant about it. She did not want to talk about death and seemed to avoid it at all times. As a child I remember burying family pets, relatives, and people we knew at church but I do not remember Mom ever talking to me about what was going on or asking how I felt.

It was an interesting paradox for me that her unwillingness to confront death led me to question it and think about it every day of my life from the time I was a little girl in elementary school. Even now, as an adult in mid-life, I think about death every single day. This intense focus on death and dying is probably not normal, but it also has made me very dedicated to my spirituality and to living my life on purpose.

When I moved Mom closer to where I lived in February 2014, I had no idea what to expect.  I always thought I was pretty spiritually savvy and could handle most things.  After all, no one knows what the dying process is like in the same way we do not remember what the birth process was like.  Although I do give myself credit for dealing capably with Mom’s needs on a daily basis, I now see in retrospect that I want things done a little differently when I am leaving this Earth.    Maybe what I learned will help you with your Mother or Father’s passing.  I think that opening our awareness to what is possible so that our choices and actions may be more conscious when we need them to be is very important in the dying process.

Although Mom kept her thoughts and feelings to herself, there were times during her dying process that I wanted to coax some of these feelings out of her. After growing up with her and learning about her childhood and some of her adult experiences (losing my brother to drugs and alcohol and my father’s early unexpected death) I could see that these were things she still felt pain about.

I felt pretty certain she would be “healed” if she could just get it all out before she took her last breath.  On a few rare occasions when she was in one of her unusual mind experiences, she’d say things like, “I know I made mistakes…”  Or “There were things I did not do right…”  But she never would go further than that.

When she became completely dependent on caregivers for her activities of daily living, she would get very upset that she “could not do for herself.”  Having had previous experience caring for her mother, my grandmother, I knew not to make her feel guilty about this.  No one wants to be a burden to anyone else.  “It’s ok Mom,” I would say.  “These things just happen.” And I know that gave her some comfort.

Unfortunately, I was wrong on those days when I thought I was doing the right thing by trying to get her to talk about her feelings about dying.  My boyfriend at the time told me that I had to get her to talk about death because “it would be good for her.”  So at times I did urge her and encourage her and push her to talk. But it was not the right thing to do.

Lesson #1: What “should” be done or said in the final days and hours of a parent’s death is very subjective. Your parent gets to decide what is to be said or left unsaid. If during the dying process, your parent is given the opportunity to talk but they do not want to talk – continuing to urge or encourage them to open up is not the right thing to do. Back off – do not make things worse than they have to be.

The great classic, “The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying” says that the most important thing we can do is be there with the person as they are going through the dying process.  Upsetting them is not wise.

Towards the very end, Mom said a few times that she “knew she had to leave here” but that was as close as she got to admitting she was dying.  She never once used the “D” word and neither did I.

When people are flippant or sarcastic about death, especially their own death, it is a sign of fear. Soygal Rinpoche quotes a Tibetan master who said that is a rare person who is not afraid (at least a little) of dying.

 

If possible, research now as much as you can on the topic of dying and death. Include your significant other, spouse, and / or children in the process. As you learn more, it will be confirmed for you that preparing for death is one of the most important things you can do in life. When we study death, we learn what is really important in life. Being kind and loving to others and being honest and unselfish will help us live a better life so that we do not experience regret that we did not do these things when we had the time.

Lesson #2: Learn about the grief process and the stages of dying. In the Tibetan tradition of Buddhism, there is a clear and detailed explanation of the process of dying, which involves eight stages. Four of these stages correspond to the gradual dissolution of the four elements of our bodies (earth, water, fire, and air). When my Mom’s decline began, it started with her body. She became weaker and required assistance first with talking then with hygiene and other activities of daily living. Then the mind began to get a little forgetful. In the process of these changes, emotions also rang louder. She would get angry that something was happening to her that she could not control. She would get angry at me for “being so nice to her.” “Aren’t you mad that you have to take care of me?” she would snap. And the truth is, I was not mad. She could not help what was happening to her so how could I be mad at her? This was the woman whose body I had come out of!!!  The woman who had carried me into the world. So, even as Mom sat in front of me in a dazed state, with wrinkles on her skin, swollen legs, and bent fingers, I saw her as beautiful. I did not see an old woman going through a difficult time. I saw pure love.   I felt pure love.

When a child is born, it is born of pure love. Yet, that child is also completely dependent upon another person to take care of it for many years. Being an older person who is unable to care for him/herself is the very same thing. I have heard people say they feel sorry for older people whose lives are over because they have nothing left to do and nothing to look forward to. Yet I have never heard one person say they feel sorry for a newborn baby because that baby needs someone to take care of it.

Lesson #3: Realize that being an older person who needs help is the same as being a newborn who needs help. Be as patient, kind and loving to your dying parent as you would your new born child.

When a parent is dying, one of the most important things we can do is to try to understand what their needs are and do what we can to take care of these needs. Parents can often verbalize this while babies cannot.

Doing what your parent wants often requires an act of selflessness – putting aside our needs and feelings so that we can be fully present for our loved one. Whatever has to be done – whatever will make them more comfortable – is always the right thing to do. And this does not have to be hard IF you have taken the time to work on your own emotions first.

During the dying process, people can slip in and out of very strong emotions such as fear, regret, sadness, anger, and clinging to things that once gave them security. It is especially difficult for people who have not done the necessary work, to manage their emotions effectively at this time of transition. Often feelings of overwhelm are strongest. How will you be able to help someone else manage these emotions if you cannot manage your own?

Lesson #4: Meet the person who is dying exactly where they are. Do not expect them to change during the dying process – it is too late. It is also important to remember that it is not appropriate for us to get hysterical, cry, or show other strong emotions in their presence. Take breaks and leave the room when you need to – go outside for fresh air, talk to someone, or work with a hospice chaplain to get your own issues sorted out. If you express upset emotions in the presence of your parent, it will undoubtedly make him or her feel much worse.

Do what you can to provide positive and caring support at all times. I remember with my own Mother, as she began to slip away, I held her hand tightly and asked her if she saw any angels. She often said “yes” and she told me they had their arms outreached to her. I reminded her that they were there to help her to the next place; that she was doing good; and there was nothing to be frightened of. I know Mom heard me because when I said these things, her grip on my hand increased ever so slightly. She was past the speaking stage, but I know she heard me and what I said hopefully made a difference.

As you get older and more people you know begin to depart from this world, you will realize that looking after them is the best preparation for your own death.

Lesson #5: Holding a space of light and love for your parent so that the transition is less difficult is what we are supposed to do. It’s not as hard as you might think it is. The way to make it less difficult is to focus on being a calming influence on the other person.  Say prayers, read poems, light a candle or meditate – these are all good things that will calm your monkey mind and help you be as relaxed and supportive as possible with the few precious moments you have left with your parent.

The death of my beloved Mother was no doubt the most significant experience of my lifetime and I feel blessed to have shared this with her. I wish the same for you.

About Patricia Seeley

Patricia works with seniors of all ages at one of the largest Retirement Communities in Northern California and is also the Educational Director of The Center of Awareness.  She has also worked as a Hospice Chaplain and regularly gives presentations and workshops on managing chronic health conditions, successfully navigating the challenges of mid-life and conscious aging.  She is passionate about lifelong learning and believes that staying interested in exercise, current events and hobbies is the best way to stay emotionally, mentally and physically healthy.  She is a writer specializing in wellness for all ages and has been published in more than 100 newspapers and magazines.

Source: http://consciouslifenews.com/5-dying-parent/1188896/

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  1. Samfoonheei on Jul 20, 2020 at 1:49 pm

    Profound teachings and explanation of how to support our dying parents . At least now we can do our very best and have the knowledge to handle such situation. Even both my parents are not around , I am glad to learn some from here to help up in relatives or someone whom I knew hours before their death.
    Families often use this time to share feelings and perspectives that do not often have the opportunity to be heard. Spending some time at the bedside of the dying is worthwhile. Learning Dharma have helped me to face the moment of death. Life is a process of learning not just about life lessons, but also about dying.
    And being as present as we can with our loved ones when they dying is one of the greatest gifts we can give them.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

  2. Yee Yin on Aug 13, 2019 at 3:39 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing with us this article about how to care for our parents when they are dying. This is especially useful when our parents don’t know anything about Buddhism and are not prepared for their death. In general, talking about death is a taboo, not many people want to talk about it and refuse to talk about it.

    When we are born, we are actually here to prepare for our death. We are not here to enjoy life or to suffer and complain about how tough life is. We are here to live our life in the right way and gain enough wisdom to know what is good and what is bad to us.

    Knowing we are the one creating what we want and how we are, we have to take charge of our own life and make the right choice. I agree with the author, “Being kind and loving to others and being honest and unselfish will help us live a better life so that we do not experience regret that we did not do these things when we had the time.” Start to be kind and loving today because this is how we can find real happiness.

  3. Pastor Chia on May 2, 2019 at 9:39 am

    Since knowing dharma, dealth has becoming the subject we can’t denice it will come soon or later. Better keep our focus to change our habitualation, control our emotion to face dealth coming. When you take refuge whole heartedly, your will able overcoming fear to you. Is good we can do dealth meditation time to time to prepare when dealth coming.

  4. Julia Tan on May 1, 2019 at 9:24 am

    In last night discussion witch my dharma siblings, many showed regret because they didn’t spent enough time with their parents due to their personal problems. Some due to the sudden death of their parents they lost the chance to even say goodbye. So those who’s parents still around, no matter they are old or still young, be with them, make them happy and comfortable, at least let them know you love them. Practicing Dharma is a way to repay their kindness.

    We Buddhist mediate on death. May be its hard for our parents to do that but bring Dharma to them, take them to have pilgrimage in KFR, teach them to chant mantras, even better if they can do dharma work. many many ways to let them collect merits and lead them to have a meaningful life.

    The best gift in life is Dharma. Preparing them right now not when they start showing the dying sign because that would be too late.

  5. Mingwen on May 1, 2019 at 7:40 am

    It’s not necessary & extremely important not to wait for too long to do something if it’s really matter to anyone of us.

    Nothing is permanent, anything can happen in a sudden. Karma do not need to inform us when does he wanna come.

    I’m grateful that I’ve been learning Dharma via Kechara & I’m able to share to both of my parents & family members & apply to daily life. Life just got so much relief after knowing Dharma.

    P.S. photo taken @ Wisdom Hall, Kechara Forest Retreat, Bentong, Pahang.

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  6. June Kang on May 1, 2019 at 7:15 am

    It is nice that people was so kind to share his/her experience to let others to learn. Indeed this is a good article for those who actually does not know what to do when facing the dying parents. My personal thought is when you parents are still living, guide them to have spiritual practice, if they are already on the journey of spiritual practice , support them unconditionally. At the end, spiritual practice can help them to be more easily accept death. As a Buddhist, when they are really in Dharma, they will knows that they need to preparing for death because death has no time. That is how Dharma will make them no fear to face death and do purification practice for the mistake done.

  7. Justin Cheah on May 1, 2019 at 3:16 am

    Interesting topic actually. I agree totally to the points in particularly the first one where we should allow the unsaid to be mentioned, basically help to smoothen the transition to help them to open up and be open about it. Everyone dies and we should be ready for it and yes it is ok to be sad but what we can do more for our parents especially when they are going to die. Parents have brought us up to whom we are today and we should repay their kindness, think of this way as a way to repay their kindness at the very least.

  8. Tek Lee on May 1, 2019 at 3:14 am

    Everybody will face death one day. Either to face people close to us dying or we ourselves dying. It is scary, only when we don’t know how death is and don’t understand the process. Only through Dharma that teaches us the process of death, to meditate about death and always be prepared to face death one day. We don’t know when does the day come, but when it comes, we are always prepared. We can also dedicate Puja to our dying parents, introduce Dorje Shugden to them, so that they can have peace of mind when dying.

  9. Vivian Ong on May 1, 2019 at 1:38 am

    It is quite hard to accept someone close to us dying but we still have to embrace it no matter what. But with Dharma, we can apply what we learn to help the dying person as much as we can before they actually passes away.

  10. Andrea Lai on May 1, 2019 at 12:47 am

    Thinking back the old time me, death is a deep fear, like losing yourself or something and getting stuck at nowhere. I easily got emotional feel, hence I dare not attend any visitations or funeral.
    Right now, I think things have changed. As we growing more matured, we will have deeper thought, especially when we engaged into spirituality. I’m glad I found the right path into Buddhism. Rinpoche had taught us to do our sadhana daily with visualization of our parents at our side. I think, that was the best dedication and prayers to my parents.

  11. pammie yap on Apr 30, 2019 at 8:54 pm

    Death is definitely not your everyday topic whereby people openly want to talk about. For the Chinese, it’s a taboo. It’s bad luck to talk about it as it might come true. Before learning about Buddhism, I thought of the same. It brings fear and unhappy thoughts.
    “Be as patient, kind and loving to your dying parent as you would your new born child.” This is so true! I realized that my parents need a lot of them lately. A great way for me to practice as well. Another way of helping our parents is prayers. Do lots of prayers and light lots of candles dedicated to them to generate merits for better rebirth and to practice in the future.

  12. Datuk May on Apr 30, 2019 at 5:25 pm

    When I first commented on this article, my mother was still alive and living in Perth, Australia. Since then, my mother has passed away in 2016. In one way, I was still a little frustrated that she was so far away from me being in Malaysia, but I had accepted that it is so and that she chose to live in Perth even after the death of my father as she preferred to be nearer to my brother, her son. Such was the wish of most ladies of her generation.

    Having learnt and studied the Dharma, I was glad that I introduced my mother to Protector Dorje Shugden and since then, she was always calm when she held the DS tsa tse in her hands. Being unable to serve nor look after her most of the time, except for short visits to Perth, I had pujas dedicated to her to be calm and be ok with letting go of any regrets which she might have.

    Honestly speaking, these little deeds which I did for my mother helped me quite a bit when she passed on. It also helped me a lot when I had the undertakers place DS holy pills and water while preparing her body for burial.

    One can never completely be without regrets on the passing of one’s parents, but praying for her good rebirth and dedicating merits of virtuous works to them works for me as a buddhist.

    Definitely passing away of one’s parents will propel us to think about our own death and it is advisable for us to live with purpose and selflessness in order to die with less fear for losing a life well lived.

  13. penelope jayne on Mar 5, 2018 at 1:05 pm

    Thank you for this article

  14. Marek on Dec 21, 2016 at 10:26 pm

    my Mama died today. I’m inconsolable

  15. chris chong on Jun 13, 2016 at 1:07 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this touching article by Patricia. I was deeply touched by the way she describe how she handled her mother’s death and the little conversation she had with her dying mother. To come face to face with death is not easy especially with the person who is dying. With all those fears of uncertainly and attachments, it is almost impossible to have a peaceful mind. Hence, we have to provide our dying parents with utmost care and love for them to have a peaceful and happy mind during their remaining days. If they passed away with a troubled mind, it is not a good news in Buddhism. We believe that a person died with a troubled mind will less likely to have a good rebirth.

    This article also shows me an interesting angle to look at the dying parent’s mind. Sometimes, we tend to overlook their feelings due to their impaired ability to express themselves accurately during their last days. The five ways to help our dying parents mentioned above is very useful, however it is still missing something important. Introducing them to dharma or sharing dharma with them during the last days are extremely important for them. Dharma is the only thing that can help them when they pass away and entered into the bardo stage. A person died without getting any dharma is very sad and it was said to be the same as a stray dog died in an alley.

    Humbly,
    Chris

  16. Wan Wai Meng on Dec 31, 2015 at 1:40 am

    It is important to live well and die even better. Not many people would like to dwell on thoughts of their death and decay. Losing control or not being able to do the things one normally could is scary. I suppose it is very hard in cultures that people don’t openly discuss about death and our final moments. It is hard for the people of nowadays who are distracted by so many things and entertainment to lend much thought to the idea that one day they will also expire. Truth be told anything is born will have to die eventually. A very good article to think about.

  17. Pastor Patsy on Aug 1, 2015 at 6:40 pm

    Most of us are afraid of death and most of the time we avoid talking about death hoping that it will not happen to us. However, we should prepare for death so that we have less or no regrets at that time and
    face it with courage and acceptance.

    “Death and dying can be a time of deepening of our love and faith and a recommitment to the spiritual beliefs and practices that are useful in guiding us along the way. Death is the only doorway that can help us gain insight into the true nature of all things”. – Our mind and body are two different entities. Our body will decay and we will leave our body. But if we train our mind now and understand the dying process and that death can happen anytime, we will appreciate our life better and use this precious human life to practice the dharma and prepare our self for death before it’s too late.

    Thank you, Rinpoche, for sharing this article written by Patricia Seeley. I hope that when my time comes, I am able to cope with it.

  18. Wah Ying on Jul 24, 2015 at 10:21 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing the article. There’s no best time to read any writing on death and preparing to death, just as we need to contemplate on death all the time.

    However, by seeing the title of the article I was “avoiding”it when Rinpoche first shared it. I read it during the last Saturday’s blog chat session. This is a practical, easy to understand and speaking from personal experience article on dying, helping dying parent/kins/friends.

    The author Patricia Seeley wrote it in a way that’s easy to read. Readers do not feel any “distance” to the writing- she is not talking from a higher point of view, instead she put herself as an ordinary human being – a daughter, not a professional hospice chaplain – and talk from experience without avoiding her regret or actions she could do better. Therefore it makes reader like me easy to understand, and even adopt any strategy to people around us – parents or kins or friends.

    With these practical and personal experience of her, plus our Buddhism knowledge in “dealing” with death, I believe most of us can provide real help to our dying kins, friends and not forgetting a good lessons and preparation for ourselves to prepare to face the death.

  19. Uncle Eddie on Jul 20, 2015 at 10:56 am

    It is a well-known fact that, death is certain, but time of death is uncertain. No one can help you at the time of death. One must die alone. Friends and relatives cannot help you at that time. No matter how much they may wish to protect you from sufferings – the sufferings associated with your death is experienced by you alone. The largest entourage cannot delay your departure from this life, no matter how many petitions they sign. Even if they all took hold of your arms and legs, they cannot hold you back from death, and not anyone of them could go with you. They can do nothing to assist you during and after death. The only thing which can help at that time, and which can also benefit your next life, is your accumulation of merit and wisdom gathered through the practice of Dharma. Only your love, compassion, wisdom and positive Karma can go with you through death and into the next life as your protection, guide and source of happiness and good conditions. Helping the dying: When helping dying people who have not trained in these tantric meditations, it is said that, there is no point in trying to guide them throgh such meditations at that point of time of their dying. Without prior proper training, they could not possibly succeed. Otherwise, it would be far more useful to “encourage” them to generate good thought such as deep faith in Lord Buddha or their spiritual masters, love and compassion for all living beings and so forth. This would be truly beneficial to them at the time of death. At the same time, we must at all cost avoid doing anything to irritate them, or make them feel angersome, as dying in a state of anger or iritation could easily lead to a rebirth in Hell, as cautioned by high Lamas. Our main role is to inspire positive thoughts in them such as good faith, love and compassion in order to generate a good rebirth. This makes an important part of preparation work for purification of negative karma in the final realisation. Om Mani Padme Hung.

  20. Joy on Jul 17, 2015 at 9:34 pm

    After reading this… I feel even more grateful that in Buddhism we actually talk, learn, study, meditate and try our best in practising or visualising the death process. After reading how beautifully Patricia had the opportunity to care for her dying mother, I wished I knew better or knew Tibetan Buddhism at that time and read the dying process, I would have been able to handle the death of my parents a whole lot better. Anyway I am glad I got to know Buddhism and learn about this dying process to at least try to prepare my own self for this ultimate day. One thing’s for sure, it helps you refocus and re-evaluate what’s truly important in life and the purpose why you are here, why I am here. Definitely it is more than just to earn some money, have a good job, get married, have kids, go for holidays, and then what? Still we’ll grow to be wrinkly old bat waiting on our death beds… hopefully with few regrets and attachments. Yes understanding death one certainly learns to respect and appreciate life better. Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this post on the practical things one can do for the dying.

  21. Pastor Adeline on Jul 13, 2015 at 6:44 pm

    We brought with us the idea of immortality of our body life after life, thinking that we live forever. The fact is that all of us will die and that is the nature cycle of lives. For us to live our lives to the fullest, we ought to understand the meaning of it and how to make it worthwhile while working towards a peaceful end.

    All religions, spiritual practises offered different explanation of what happened at the end of our lives so to encourage us to do good while living. Generally speaking, in order for one to reach heaven, to go to a good place etc. one is encouraged to do good. Contrary to that, one will be going to hell or bad places.

    In Tibetan Buddhism, there is a lot of emphasis on cause and effect, the precious human life, buddhahood etc. The whole purpose of having this precious human body is for us to practise towards buddhahood which include the practise on death.

    In life, there are many events that require us to be prepared so that we know what to expect and if anything goes wrong, we are prepared to deal with it. Why not then be prepared for death? Unlike all the events in our life, death will only happened once, so it will be logical and wise for sure to be prepared!

  22. Shelly Tai on Jul 6, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this wonderful post. Death is a very fearful events for everyone the problem is even though is so fearful but most people do not prepare for it what more the death of our own parents, I feel great because now I have the dharma and all the advice that Rinpoche has giving to us so I think now is the practice that we need to train our mind to get ready for this big day as well as our own parents death, whatever the writer share is very true we should comfort them during this very last moment in their life we should said positive thing to comfort them and to help them so that hopefully they can take a higher rebirth.

  23. Phng Keng Hwa on Jul 5, 2015 at 11:20 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you for sharing this post; it gives e a clearer view on what we must all do in order to give our parents a happy farewell when the time comes, no matter when. No matter what we do, we will always do something we will regret, so that’s is why we must create the awareness to find these regretful actions and how we create them and learn to not do them.

    Hopefully, ever since coming to learn all these buddhist teachings that you have provided for me, I am learning to improve myself, and be kinder and more understanding to everyone I meet and especially my siblings and relatives. Thank you, Rinpoche.

    Your humble student,
    Keng Hwa.

  24. JP on Jul 3, 2015 at 2:10 pm

    It is so true that we often don’t spend enough time thinking of our death, let alone preparing for it. It’s like we’re fooling ourselves that we are immortals. There is really no escape and the day will come for all of us.

    I believe when we familiarize ourselves with the dying process, our fears slowly melt away and we will reorganize our priorities and focus on what really matters when we leave this existence.

    As Rinpoche taught last night, developing the mind is the most important as our bodies will fade and betray us at the end of the day.

  25. Leonard Ooi(Penang) on Jun 30, 2015 at 12:01 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this article. Death always give me the fear and dealing with it has not been easy. With Rinpoche’s teachings, I have learnt to accept with death and cope with the dying process of my relatives and loved ones.

    With folded hands

    Leonard Ooi(Kechara Penang)

  26. So Kin Hoe (KISG) on Jun 29, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this important article written by Patricia Seeley. By learning from someone’s useful experience on handling dying parent, it can significantly make us realize the preciousness of looking after our parents during their old age, especially at their dying moments. Time do not wait for us. Time will not make its U-turn. We can help our parents to go through their dying process the most. We have to guide them and lead them through the spiritual practice we have learnt and practice.

    Everyone is afraid of death as we do not know where we are heading to after our death. “Death and dying can be a time of deepening of our love and faith and a recommitment to the spiritual beliefs and practices that are useful in guiding us along the way. Death is the only doorway that can help us gain insight into the true nature of all things.” This two statements can open up our mind to be more focus, alert and mindful to practice Dharma and help those around us through the Dharma way as we do not wish all our loved ones to fall into 3 lower realms after death. Death is unavoidable and each of us will have to meet our death whether we like it or not.

    Thank you Rinpoche for guiding us all the times.

    With folded hands,
    kin hoe

  27. Alice Tay on Jun 28, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    死亡是我们每个人在此生唯一的忧心,逃避不了,而且还要勇于面对的一环。

    在我还没有深入了解佛法之前,我真的对“死亡”没有一点的心理准备。不过,很感恩的是,我今天还活着而且接触了克切拉后,得到上师仁波切在网上面子书和博文上的分享与教诲,让我对死亡有所了解。

    除此,我还将我所学到的“死亡的过程”与“念死”等等,分享予我母亲。毕竟,她年纪也大了,也是时候要让他们做好心理准备。

    其实,我母亲一开始也像 Patricia Seeley 所提到的很多人不喜欢和很避忌谈关于死亡的一切。但是,我时常都会趁大家聊天时后,都会不时的提起。自然而然,她老人家也开始习惯了。只不过,还需要时间去学习怎样“念死”和当死亡来临时,要做些什么。

    感谢仁波切这篇博文,提醒了我必须努力要记得当身边的人遇到了这一切,我应该要做些什么。还有最重要的是,尽然我们在死亡那一刻是不能挽留与带不走一切,那么我们还需要去挣扎的争取不属于自己的东西吗???

  28. Judy Chen on Jun 28, 2015 at 12:54 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for this article. I wouldn’t know whether I can handle the dying process but after attending and listening to your teachings, as mentioned we should start contemplating and on it daily.
    It is through Kechara, I have learned that we need to be spiritually and mentally ready to accept death.
    With folded hands,
    Thank you Rinpoche

  29. Loh Ann Leong (Penang) on Jun 26, 2015 at 6:20 am

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing the notes, very powerful. It is also keep oneself ready in mentally and spiritually, when facing such. It is very easy for me to express here, but when the times come,I hope I can reflect and utilize the pointers as stated.

    OM BENZA WIKI BITANA SOHA _/|\_

  30. Kevin W on Jun 26, 2015 at 3:02 am

    This article touched me as I’ve went through the death of my grandmother. I miss her.
    I remembered family members & relatives trying to force convert her to Christianity at deathbed and scaring her which I knew could disturb her mind.

    It was so not right.
    It disturbed me a little as I observed what was happening.

    The least I could do was to slip headphones over her head and secretly played youtube Medicine Buddha and Tara mantras repeatedly looping for her; hoping to calm her mind and I could see her face relaxed and at peace. I simply just told others I was playing some piano/meditation music.

    Its sometimes difficult to appease many relatives/family members of different faiths and beliefs which gathers around. A lot of times, things have to be done tactfully and carefully to avoid arguments, disrespect or unnecessary expounding of ones personal beliefs.

    Death is like sleeping. Where we wake up in the 6 realms depends on the final moments at the time of our death.
    One can have achieve the perfect state of mind of awareness, perhaps blissfulness in the middle of their lives, but it is of no use if at their final moments their minds are disturbed, all their efforts will be wasted.
    The culmination of everything depends at that Final state of mind. The last breath.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this beautiful article.
    With folded hands.

  31. Aw Wei Ling on Jun 26, 2015 at 12:40 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    This is very good reminder and advice for us to do the preparation . I will keep in my mind for doing the best when I facing this moment.

    I am so lucky to have this chance to read and understand this article. Thank you so much Rinpoche for sharing this article.

    Humbly With folded hand _/\_
    Aw wei ling

  32. Datuk May on Jun 25, 2015 at 10:23 pm

    Having a 96 year old mother, this is an article worth reading and cultivate the patience for her. I like the comparison on how we are so in awe with the inabilities of a new born baby and the patience to care for him/her till they learn and that it is similar to an old parent who is dying. This is something many do not relate nor realise.

    My regret is that my mother is far away from me, and whenever I visit her in Perth the same regret and frustration would arise that she did not come back to Malaysia to stay with me after my father’s passing.

    Such regret will definitely not settle my personal emotions when I am with her. For now as long as I am away from her I shall dedicate my prayers for her to be happy and when I am with her, I will remember what I have read in this article and enjoy every precious moment to make her comfortable.

    Thank you Rinpoche for this article.

  33. Stella on Jun 25, 2015 at 4:56 pm

    This advice came too late for me to do for my dad but I will keep in mind for other relatives (e.g. my mom) whom may take an earlier leave then me from this world.

    I wish my daddy well in wherever he may be and will be praying for his good rebirth life after life to be close to Buddha’s teaching.

    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this advice with us. It is a powerful reminder that my mom will leave me eventually.

    Humbly with folded palms.
    Stella

    • Stella on Jul 18, 2015 at 10:52 am

      As I read this post again, one point stood out to me; we should not expect the person in the dying process to change (it’s rather late), but we should envelope the person with as much positive-ness as possible, so that the person will not feel any worse than he/she is feeling already.

      Thank You Rinpoche for this helpful post.

      with folded palms, humbly,
      Stella

  34. Lum Kok Luen on Jun 25, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Dear Rinpoche,

    Thank you so much for this sharing. I can relate to this sharing very, wery well and what Patricia shared is so lovely.

    Having gone through the recent demise of my mother in March this year. every single line in the article above is so, so true.

    Of course, there are a lot of regrets and actions that I SHOULD HAVE DONE, but did not do. As I recollect those moments, tears are coming down my eyes.

    I am now very determined to observe and take this as a learning experience to manage the best I can for my surviving father. I have also shared this with my spouse and we are definitely on our journey to prepare for our parents’, close relatives and our own death, which is inevitable.

    I am also very thankful and rejoice that I have come to Dharma through Kechara and this has certainly impacted all of my family’s lives – FOR THE BETTER.

    Yours humbly,
    _/\_
    Lum Kok Luen

  35. Sharon Ong on Jun 25, 2015 at 12:24 am

    Death and dying are 2 things that are not easy to deal with. Having had a few people I hold dear passing away, one thought that I had was how do I make the dying process a good one for the person who is dying. This went unanswered until this post. I thank Rinpoche for this post as this will help me face death and dying process of the people around me better. With folded hands.

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    Tuesday, Mar 25. 2025 03:18 PM
    n their theoretical model, rudeness has this impact on our ability to think because it engenders negative sadness, anger. Researchers have found that common negative behaviours can spread easily and have significant consequences. The best way to avoid rude people is to meet their acts of rudeness with kindness. Exposure to neurotoxins in society is not new. Children today are raised in an environment that is much different from those days. Nowadays they are exposed to behaviours, profane language, hostilities and stress from which we adults, raised a generation ago. Studies have shown that children exposed to serious psychological trauma during childhood are at risk of suffering increased psychiatric disorders. Interesting read.
    Thank you Rinpoche.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/rudeness-is-a-neurotoxin.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Tuesday, Mar 25. 2025 03:15 PM
    Revisit this blog again . Reading comments in this blog Rich people have substantial assets and income, providing a sense of security and freedom from financial worries. Owning high-end cars, designer clothing and everything they want with their money. Rich people often have more time for leisure, hobbies, and travel, allowing them to pursue interests and experiences. They may live in large, luxurious homes and have or apartments, often in desirable locations and having personalized services. The fundamental difference in mindset between the rich and the poor is, the rich have understood a very simple principle money makes money. Rich people see money as an opportunity, while poor people see it as something to be earned. Poor people work hard for their money. It is the heart that makes a man rich. He is rich according to what he is, not according to what he has. Not he who has much is rich, but he who gives much. The primary difference between rich people and poor people is how they handle their wealth. My thought been rich in this world it is not what we take up, but what we give up, that makes us rich.
    Thank you for sharing Rinpoche.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/rich-people.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Tuesday, Mar 25. 2025 03:13 PM
    Found this old post …disturbing. Having a name especially a Bar linked to Buddha to be disrespectful towards Buddhism. After much controversy the owner had it removed. The Buddha Bar located in Sabah by a young owner which opened without much thought had many people complaining. Later was forced to have its controversial name changed to ‘Peacock Garden’ and had apologised for the controversial name. As a devout Buddhist, the name ‘Buddha Bar’ which serves alcohol, is disrespectful to the revered Buddha.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/buddha-bar.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Tuesday, Mar 25. 2025 03:12 PM
    Siberia, considered the heartland of shamanism inhabited by many different ethnic groups, and many of its peoples observe shamanistic. Many of the indigenous communities reclaiming their traditional spiritual and healing practices . Interesting. Siberian shamanism is often called Tengerism, involves various rituals, including drumming, chanting, trance states, and offerings to nature spirits and ancestors. This religious practice has deep roots in Siberia and Central Asia in recent years with roots in the Turkic and Mongolic cultures. Many who have been live in a remote part of Russia, have preserved their shamanic traditions due to their isolation. Many customs of Tengrism are still been practiced where they emphasizes a deep respect for nature and its various spirits, including those of the earth, water, and mountains. They do believe in the continued existence of souls and the importance of honouring their ancestors.
    Thank you Rinpoche sharing this ancient religion.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/interesting-siberia.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Tuesday, Mar 25. 2025 03:10 PM
    Everyone of us has an unforgettable different experience, a different destination and itineraries. The journey to Shar Gaden Monastery back in 2019, making offerings to the sangha , by the Kecharians hold special moments and memories. They were on behalf of His Eminence the 25th Tsem Rinpoche and Kechara in making an offering to all 650 monks of the monastery. On this fruitful trip the Kecharians had the honour to catch a glimpse of the normally-covered holy statue of Dorje Shugden . Awesome this holy statue of Dorje Shugden was handmade by HH Kyabje Trijang Rinpoche and HH Kyabje Zong Rinpoche.The team was also granted an audience with H E Domo Geshe Chocktrul Rinpoche. Having the opportunity to make offerings to the monks was indeed meritorious. Rejoice to them. Looking at those beautiful pictures paints a thousands words. Thank you Rinpoche and team for this sharing. Merely looking at it is a blessing especially the Holy Statue of Dorje Shugden.

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    Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly. We can’t let our failures define us. Defeat is not the worst of failures. Not to have tried is the true failure. Success is never permanent, and failure is never final. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness .Sometimes just reminding ourselves of the temporality of failure enables us to forge ahead and stay focus looking forward . Failure isn’t something many of us can handle gracefully. And even though we know it’s a common human condition, figuring out how to stay motivated in the face of failure .
    Thank you Rinpoche for this profound teachings.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/inspiration-worthy-words/dont-let-obstacles-win.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Friday, Mar 21. 2025 05:38 PM
    Finally HH Dalai Lama said we can practice Dorje Shugden. After all these years of deep frustration felt by the Tibetan people. They who lack religious freedom been denied and been exploited in all sectors of society. More than 60 years the Tibetan leadership has cause the sufferings of those in exile who had propitiate Dorje Shugden. Dalai Lama did reiterated although he recommended not worshipping Dorje Shugden as it is a personal choice and freedom. Interesting read.
    Thank you Rinpoche .

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/dalai-lama-says-we-can-practise-dorje-shugden-finally-chinese.html
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    Working in a private hospital before ,having witnessed many personal tragedies faced by the living and dying patients. Many of these poor people faced their death with fear, with misery and pain before departing this world. With the images of all these in my mind, on occasion feeling sad and grieve at times when those we have cared .But nonetheless we should recognise certain truths. All of us are going to leave this world at one time and leaving those we love. In the teaching of the Buddha, all of us will pass away eventually as a part in the natural process of birth, old-age and death and that we should always keep in mind the impermanence of life. Along the journey of life, we are reminded of our own inevitable ends in waiting and everything is a blip of transience and impermanent. Be responsible, good and positive for ourselves and towards others. This leads to calmness, happiness and an outlook which contributes to a calm and controlled mind at the time of death. We have to remind ourselves the importance of rebirth and taking time to prepare for their own demise before its too late.To cultivate the good karma, our good actions are an excellent way prepare for our death. Having lead a responsible and compassionate life and have no regrets when death approaches enables us to surrender without a struggle. The life that we all cherish and wish to hold on. We are doomed to the endless cycles of life and death, we should learn and practices Dharma teachings .We are given a chance in life and choice to determine our future, to determine where we will go for rebirth. Spend our time on earth wisely before its too late.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this great sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/the-importance-of-rebirth.html
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    The Flatwoods monster in West Virginia folklore, is a creature reported to have been sighted in the town of Flatwoods in Braxton County, West Virginia Flatwoods monsters are aliens described as hovering creatures with glowing purple eye. Since tales about this creature, it has become one of the most famous legends in modern memory. Although the Monster has not been seen since its impact on the rural community has been huge. Many of the eye witnesses came up stories concluded that the shape, movement, and sounds due to the nature of the sighting. Description by eye witness varied, some said is unidentified flying object (UFO) . There’s no hard evidence to support the true nature . Interesting article.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/flatwoods-monster-close-encounter-of-the-third-kind.html
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    Sunday, Mar 16. 2025 01:40 PM
    The Eerie Enigma of the Mothman are refer to the legendary, humanoid, winged creature as said by the locals as where is was been sighted. Since then it had sparking a blend of fear and fascination among the locals in the Point Pleasant, West Virginia area. This creature became an eerie symbol of fear, tragedy, and fascination for decades to come since the stories are so enduring and pervasive . The first reported encounter in 1966 in West Virginia and to the most recent one in 2024 in Kane, Illinois. In the quiet town of Point Pleasant, West Virginia, the mysterious creature had igniting one of the most puzzling legends in American folklore. Witnesses described this creature standing over seven feet tall, with a wingspan that could rival a small aircraft, glowing red eyes, and a human-like figure. This interesting, could it be real no one knows, there’s something out there for sure.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/science-mysteries/the-eerie-enigma-of-the-mothman.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Sunday, Mar 16. 2025 01:38 PM
    His Holiness the Dalai Lama is considered the incarnation of the Bodhisattva Avalokitesvara and therefore he is an enlightened being. H H Dalai Lama has strongly discouraged the practice of Dorje Shugden worship within Tibetan Buddhism. Dorje Shugden is a prominent deity in the Gelugpa school of Tibetan Buddhism. Many highly attained Lamas have been relying on this Powerful Protector for centuries and even Dalai lama previously do propitiate Dorje Shugden . It cannot be wrong and its wrong to view it as a form of “spirit worship”. All his previous 9 reincarnations practiced with devotion, all of the Dalai Lamas teachers practiced Dorje Shugdan as well . The Tibetan community is torn over this issue and this has been the cause of much suffering and unnecessary prejudice. Dalai Lama is without doubt an enlightened being that surely cannot be tricked by a spirit. Dalai Lama did composed a praise to Dorje Shugden while at Dungkar Monastery . Interesting article , may more people read this and to understand better regarding this controversy. In 2020, the Dalai Lama made a Uturn by saying we can practice Dorje Shugden . Thats’ wonderful and relief for many practitioners.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this great sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/the-fourteenth-dalai-lama-dorje-shugden.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Sunday, Mar 16. 2025 01:37 PM
    Butön Rinchen Drup, 11th Abbot of Shalu Monastery, was a 14th-century Sakya master and Tibetan Buddhist leader. Butön Rinchen Drup a Tibetan great scholar and translator, known for systematizing the Tibetan Buddhist canon containing the Indian scriptures based on the spoken words of the Buddha. He also compiled the Tangyur collection that contains the Indian and Tibetan commentaries of these teachings. He wrote a famous text, the History of Buddhism in India and Tibet, which many Tibetan scholars utilize in their study till today. He remains to this day as one of the most important Tibetan historians and Buddhist writers in the history of Buddhism and Tibet. He was not merely a capable administrator but he is remembered to this very day as a prodigious scholar and writer and is Tibet’s most celebrated historian. After his death he strongly influenced the development of esoteric studies and psychic training in Tibet for centuries. Interesting biography of a great scholar.
    Thank you Rinpoche and Pastor David with folded hands.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/great-lamas-masters/tibets-great-scholar-buton-rinchen-drub.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Sunday, Mar 16. 2025 01:36 PM
    nspiring a Tibetan Parliament representing the Kagyu school of Tibetan Buddhism, spoke bravely for the need to stop discriminating against Dorje Shugden practitioners. Tenpa Yarphel, a Tibetan MP speaking confidently for the sake of Tibetan unity. Tibetans in exile have also been particularly divided over the issue of the two Karmapas and the very damaging Dorje Shugden conflict. For someone who dare to speak for the sake of peace with the intention of moving forward to a better future. Tenpa Yarphel spoke up against the continuing discrimination of people based on their beliefs. For over more than 20 years those Tibetans especially those Dorje Shugden practitioners suffered from the lack of employment opportunities to discrimination. A wise decision of Tenpa Yarphel speaking up the truth of the Tibetan sufferings. They are not allowed in Tibetan hospitals, or apply jobs in the Tibetan civil service or even entering shop or hotels and so on. Tenpa Yarphel’s statement, paints a thousand words of reality. A big hand applaud to this brave man .
    Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/current-affairs/tibetan-patriot-tenpa-yarphel-tells-tibetan-government-to-make-peace-with-dorje-shugden-people.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Wednesday, Mar 5. 2025 05:19 PM
    Losar is the Tibetan New Year, a festival that marks the beginning of the year on the Tibetan calendar. It is celebrated among the Tibetan community all over the world recently. Losar marks the beginning of the Tibetan calendar year a time for family gatherings, religious ceremonies, and feasting because of its long history and rich cultural traditions. The celebrations will last for 15 days whereby the first three days being the most important day for them and widely celebrated festival on the Tibetan calendar. During theTibetan New Year, Panglung Oracles are known to enter a trance state, of the Dharma Protector Dorje Shugden. This practice is considered a significant part of the Losar celebrations within the Tibetan Buddhist tradition, providing guidance and blessings to those seeking their wisdom. People often consult the Panglung oracles to receive predictions, advice, and blessings for the coming year. Dorje Shugden will also give teachings while in trance of an oracle.
    Reading this old blog again where back in 2022, the Great Protector Dorje Shugden gave an inportant message to everyone of us. We should take it seriously practising good virtues, such as prostrating ,making offerings and practise the holy Dharma. Everyone should always be kind-hearted and doing our best to cultivate loving-kindness, compassion and bodhicitta.
    Thank you Rinpoche for sharing this precious advices.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/dorje-shugdens-2022-losar-advice.html
  • SamFoonHeei
    Wednesday, Mar 5. 2025 05:17 PM
    Pemayangtse Monastery is a Buddhist monastery in Sikkim, India that is part of the Nyingma tradition of Tibetan Buddhism. It is one of the oldest and most famous monasteries in Sikkim. It is home to Dorje Shugden, a spirit in Tibetan tradition. The monastery is one of the oldest and most famous in Sikkim. Pemayangtse Monastery in Sikkim, founded by Lhatsun Namkha Jigme of the Nyingma tradition. One of the earliest modern academic references to Dorje Shugden. Stunning sculptures, paintings and ancient scrolls can be found in the Monastery. Interesting story behind this monastery,as described by Lieutenant Colonel Laurence Austine Waddell a British explorer, collector and author. Through the years of travelling in India, Sikkim and areas on the borders of Nepal and Tibet, after doing research on Tibetan Buddhist religious practices he made a stunning discovery. He discovered that Dorje Shugden existence in the Nyingma monastery as written in his book, which confirmed that Dorje Shugden been worshipped in the Nyingma as well . Not only worshipped in the Gelug lineage but held prominence in the Nyingma tradition too. Interesting read.
    Thank you Rinpoche for this great sharing.

    https://www.tsemrinpoche.com/tsem-tulku-rinpoche/buddhas-dharma/dorje-shugden-in-nyingma-pemayangtse-monastery-sikkim.html

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On behalf of our Puja House team, Pastor Tat Ming receives food and drinks from Rinpoche. Rinpoche wanted to make sure the hardworking Puja House team are always taken care of.
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On behalf of our Puja House team, Pastor Tat Ming receives food and drinks from Rinpoche. Rinpoche wanted to make sure the hardworking Puja House team are always taken care of.
By the time I heard about Luang Phor Thong, he was already very old, in his late 80s. When I heard about him, I immediately wanted to go and pay my respects to him. - http://bit.ly/LuangPhorThong
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By the time I heard about Luang Phor Thong, he was already very old, in his late 80s. When I heard about him, I immediately wanted to go and pay my respects to him. - http://bit.ly/LuangPhorThong
It\'s very nice to see volunteers helping maintain holy sites in Kechara Forest Retreat, it\'s very good for them. Cleaning Buddha statues is a very powerful and effective way of purifying body karma.
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It's very nice to see volunteers helping maintain holy sites in Kechara Forest Retreat, it's very good for them. Cleaning Buddha statues is a very powerful and effective way of purifying body karma.
Kechara Forest Retreat is preparing for the upcoming Chinese New Year celebrations. This is our holy Vajra Yogini stupa which is now surrounded by beautiful lanterns organised by our students.
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Kechara Forest Retreat is preparing for the upcoming Chinese New Year celebrations. This is our holy Vajra Yogini stupa which is now surrounded by beautiful lanterns organised by our students.
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One of the most recent harvests from our Kechara Forest Retreat land. It was grown free of chemicals and pesticides, wonderful!
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Height: 33ft (10m)
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Third picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
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Second picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
First picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal.
Height: 33ft (10m)
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First picture-Standing Manjushri Statue at Chowar, Kirtipur, Nepal. Height: 33ft (10m)
The first title published by Kechara Comics is Karuna Finds A Way. It tells the tale of high-school sweethearts Karuna and Adam who had what some would call the dream life. Everything was going great for them until one day when reality came knocking on their door. Caught in a surprise swindle, this loving family who never harmed anyone found themselves out of luck and down on their fortune. Determined to save her family, Karuna goes all out to find a solution. See what she does- https://bit.ly/2LSKuWo
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Very powerful story! Tibetan Resistance group Chushi Gangdruk reveals how Dalai Lama escaped in 1959- https://bit.ly/2S9VMGX
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Very powerful story! Tibetan Resistance group Chushi Gangdruk reveals how Dalai Lama escaped in 1959- https://bit.ly/2S9VMGX
At Kechara Forest Retreat land we have nice fresh spinach growing free of chemicals and pesticides. Yes!
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At Kechara Forest Retreat land we have nice fresh spinach growing free of chemicals and pesticides. Yes!
See beautiful pictures of Manjushri Guest House here- https://bit.ly/2WGo0ti
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See beautiful pictures of Manjushri Guest House here- https://bit.ly/2WGo0ti
Beginner’s Introduction to Dorje Shugden~Very good overview https://bit.ly/2QQNfYv
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Beginner’s Introduction to Dorje Shugden~Very good overview https://bit.ly/2QQNfYv
Fresh eggplants grown on Kechara Forest Retreat\'s land here in Malaysia
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Fresh eggplants grown on Kechara Forest Retreat's land here in Malaysia
Most Venerable Uppalavanna – The Chief Female Disciple of Buddha Shakyamuni - She exhibited many supernatural abilities gained from meditation and proved to the world females and males are equal in spirituality- https://bit.ly/31d9Rat
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Most Venerable Uppalavanna – The Chief Female Disciple of Buddha Shakyamuni - She exhibited many supernatural abilities gained from meditation and proved to the world females and males are equal in spirituality- https://bit.ly/31d9Rat
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Thailand’s ‘Renegade’ Yet Powerful Buddhist Nuns~ https://bit.ly/2Z1C02m
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Mahapajapati Gotami – the first Buddhist nun ordained by Lord Buddha- https://bit.ly/2IjD8ru
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The Largest Buddha Shakyamuni in Russia | 俄罗斯最大的释迦牟尼佛画像- https://bit.ly/2Wpclni
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Dorje Shugden works & archives - a labour of commitment - https://bit.ly/30Tp2p8
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha.
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Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha.
Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha\'s mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
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Mahapajapati Gotami, who was the first nun ordained by Lord Buddha. She was his step-mother and aunt. Buddha's mother had passed away at his birth so he was raised by Gotami.
Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha\'s. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
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Another nun disciple of Lord Buddha's. She had achieved great spiritual abilities and high attainments. She would be a proper object of refuge. This image of the eminent bhikkhuni (nun) disciple of the Buddha, Uppalavanna Theri.
Wandering Ascetic Painting by Nirdesha Munasinghe
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Wandering Ascetic Painting by Nirdesha Munasinghe
High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
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High Sri Lankan monks visit Kechara to bless our land, temple, Buddha and Dorje Shugden images. They were very kind-see pictures- https://bit.ly/2HQie2M
This is pretty amazing!

First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
6 years ago
This is pretty amazing! First Sri Lankan Buddhist temple opened in Dubai!!!
My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche

Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
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My Dharma boy (left) and Oser girl loves to laze around on the veranda in the mornings. They enjoy all the trees, grass and relaxing under the hot sun. Sunbathing is a favorite daily activity. I care about these two doggies of mine very much and I enjoy seeing them happy. They are with me always. Tsem Rinpoche Always be kind to animals and eat vegetarian- https://bit.ly/2Psp8h2
After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can\'t stop thinking of you and I can\'t forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
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After you left me Mumu, I was alone. I have no family or kin. You were my family. I can't stop thinking of you and I can't forget you. My bond and connection with you is so strong. I wish you were by my side. Tsem Rinpoche
This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
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This story is a life-changer. Learn about the incredible Forest Man of India | 印度“森林之子”- https://bit.ly/2Eh4vRS
Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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Part 2-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
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Part 1-Beautiful billboard in Malaysia of a powerful Tibetan hero whose life serves as a great inspiration- https://bit.ly/2UltNE4
The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
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The great Protector Manjushri Dorje Shugden depicted in the beautiful Mongolian style. To download a high resolution file: https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
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The Mystical land of Shambhala is finally ready for everyone to feast their eyes and be blessed. A beautiful post with information, art work, history, spirituality and a beautiful book composed by His Holiness the 6th Panchen Rinpoche. ~ https://bit.ly/309MHBi
Beautiful pictures of the huge Buddha in Longkou Nanshan- https://bit.ly/2LsBxVb
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Beautiful pictures of the huge Buddha in Longkou Nanshan- https://bit.ly/2LsBxVb
The reason-Very interesting thought- https://bit.ly/2V7VT5r
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The reason-Very interesting thought- https://bit.ly/2V7VT5r
NEW Bigfoot cafe in Malaysia! Food is delicious!- https://bit.ly/2VxdGau
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NEW Bigfoot cafe in Malaysia! Food is delicious!- https://bit.ly/2VxdGau
DON\'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
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DON'T MISS THIS!~How brave Bonnie survived by living with a herd of deer~ https://bit.ly/2Lre2eY
Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
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Global Superpower China Will Cut Meat Consumption by 50%! Very interesting, find out more- https://bit.ly/2V1sJFh
You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
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You can download this beautiful Egyptian style Dorje Shugden Free- https://bit.ly/2Nt3FHz
Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
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Beautiful high file for print of Lord Manjushri. May you be blessed- https://bit.ly/2V8mwZe
Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
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Mongolian (Oymiakon) Shaman in Siberia, Russia. That is his real outfit he wears. Very unique. TR
Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
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Find one of the most beautiful temples in the world in Nara, Japan. It is the 1,267 year old Todai-ji temple that houses a 15 meter Buddha Vairocana statue who is a cosmic and timeless Buddha. Emperor Shomu who sponsored this beautiful temple eventually abdicated and ordained as a Buddhist monk. Very interesting history and story. One of the places everyone should visit- https://bit.ly/2VgsHhK
Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
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Manjusri Kumara (bodhisattva of wisdom), India, Pala dynesty, 9th century, stone, Honolulu Academy of Arts
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Pastor Seng Piow came again to lead our puja & Dharma sharing. It's so precious to share Dharma, even it's a short one, uploaded by Jacinga. 22nd March 2025
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Tried Group-fie... But not very successful. Lol! Kechara Penang Study Group bi-annual retreat, uploaded by Jacinta
Tormas offering made by Dock Wan, one of the senior Kecharians from KL and close students of Rinpoche. Very delicate, a masterpiece! Uploaded by Jacinta
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Tormas offering made by Dock Wan, one of the senior Kecharians from KL and close students of Rinpoche. Very delicate, a masterpiece! Uploaded by Jacinta
All together 19 retreatants, led by Pastor Seng Piow. There were few from KL and one from Indonesia. This pic was taken before the start of our retreat. Kechara Penang Study Group Retreat from 1st - 2nd March, uploaded by Jacinta.
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All together 19 retreatants, led by Pastor Seng Piow. There were few from KL and one from Indonesia. This pic was taken before the start of our retreat. Kechara Penang Study Group Retreat from 1st - 2nd March, uploaded by Jacinta.
Flower offerings from sponsors and retreatants. This flower arrangement was made by Sharyn, one of our Penang members. 1st - 2nd March, Kechara Penang Group Retreat. Uploaded y Jacinta
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Flower offerings from sponsors and retreatants. This flower arrangement was made by Sharyn, one of our Penang members. 1st - 2nd March, Kechara Penang Group Retreat. Uploaded y Jacinta
1st - 2nd March Kechara Penang Study Group DS Retreat by Jacinta.
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1st - 2nd March Kechara Penang Study Group DS Retreat by Jacinta.
6 March 2025 Had our weekly Swift Return Puja for HE Tsem Rinpoche this evening, at Kechara Kuantan center. Sam foon heei Kechara Kuantan group
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6 March 2025 Had our weekly Swift Return Puja for HE Tsem Rinpoche this evening, at Kechara Kuantan center. Sam foon heei Kechara Kuantan group
4 March 2025 cleaning of Gyenze Chapel yesterday evening Kechara Kuantan group Sam Foon heei
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4 March 2025 cleaning of Gyenze Chapel yesterday evening Kechara Kuantan group Sam Foon heei
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1 month ago
If you need DS help to clear some obstacles or perhaps just wanna support our Kechara Penang Group, do order our puja packages. By Jacinta
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If you need DS help to clear some obstacles or perhaps just wanna support our Kechara Penang Group, do order our puja packages. By Jacinta
22nd Feb 2025, Kechara Penang Study Group has completed DS puja. It is a Buddhist ritual that invokes the Dharma Protector Dorje Shugden to bring healing, harmony, and protection. By Jacinta
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22nd Feb 2025, Kechara Penang Study Group has completed DS puja. It is a Buddhist ritual that invokes the Dharma Protector Dorje Shugden to bring healing, harmony, and protection. By Jacinta
15th Feb 2025 Dorje Shugden puja & recitation of Namasangiti. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
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15th Feb 2025 Dorje Shugden puja & recitation of Namasangiti. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta
This evening Kechara Kuantan sending groceries to two underprivileged families.Help others without any reason and give without the expectation of receiving anything in return.. Sam foon heei Kechara Kuantan group
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This evening Kechara Kuantan sending groceries to two underprivileged families.Help others without any reason and give without the expectation of receiving anything in return.. Sam foon heei Kechara Kuantan group
20th February Kechara Kuantan Had our weekly Swift Return Pujafor HE Tsem Rinpoche May HE Tsem Rinpoche swiftly return to KFR at BENTONG... Kechara Kuantan.. Sam foon heei
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20th February Kechara Kuantan Had our weekly Swift Return Pujafor HE Tsem Rinpoche May HE Tsem Rinpoche swiftly return to KFR at BENTONG... Kechara Kuantan.. Sam foon heei
Throwback 9th February 2025 Group photos at Kechara Kuantan,with Pastor Seng Piow
1 month ago
Throwback 9th February 2025 Group photos at Kechara Kuantan,with Pastor Seng Piow
Releasing fishes back to the water by Kechara Kuantan group yesterday. Saving thousands of lives.
1 month ago
Releasing fishes back to the water by Kechara Kuantan group yesterday. Saving thousands of lives.
16 February This morning we saved thousands of lives from pet shop. Released and giving them a chance back to nature.
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16 February This morning we saved thousands of lives from pet shop. Released and giving them a chance back to nature.
2 months ago
9th February 2025
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9th February 2025
8th Feb 2025 Dorje Shugden puja at Penang Chapel. Every Saturday @3pm. Do join us if you're at Penang. We're located at 49, Jalan Seang Tek, Georgetown. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
2 months ago
8th Feb 2025 Dorje Shugden puja at Penang Chapel. Every Saturday @3pm. Do join us if you're at Penang. We're located at 49, Jalan Seang Tek, Georgetown. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
Completed our weekly DS Puja led by Pastor Seng Piow ( 1st Feb 2025). Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
2 months ago
Completed our weekly DS Puja led by Pastor Seng Piow ( 1st Feb 2025). Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
8th February 2025 doing Lama Chopa Guru Puja at Kuantan center with Pastor Seng Piow and Dharma brothers and sisters. .... Sam Foon Heei .. (Kuantan)
2 months ago
8th February 2025 doing Lama Chopa Guru Puja at Kuantan center with Pastor Seng Piow and Dharma brothers and sisters. .... Sam Foon Heei .. (Kuantan)
Xin Nian Kuai Le! Gong Xi Fa Cai! (29th Jan 2025) May the year of the snake brings us spiritual growth through having good health and increased wisdom. May Rinpoche return swiftly to guide all beings into Dharma path. Thanks to everyone for your participation. Without the support from each and everyone, there's no Kechara Penang Study Group. By Jacinta.
2 months ago
Xin Nian Kuai Le! Gong Xi Fa Cai! (29th Jan 2025) May the year of the snake brings us spiritual growth through having good health and increased wisdom. May Rinpoche return swiftly to guide all beings into Dharma path. Thanks to everyone for your participation. Without the support from each and everyone, there's no Kechara Penang Study Group. By Jacinta.
Gorgeous offerings of flowers, fruits snacks and drinks. This can only be achieved through the generosity and efforts all members and sponsors, especially to our dedicated Penang member Choong Soon Heng who organised this. May all beings have inner and outer peace. Uploaded by Jacinta 29th Jan 2025.
2 months ago
Gorgeous offerings of flowers, fruits snacks and drinks. This can only be achieved through the generosity and efforts all members and sponsors, especially to our dedicated Penang member Choong Soon Heng who organised this. May all beings have inner and outer peace. Uploaded by Jacinta 29th Jan 2025.
As H. E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche has mentioned: The lunar New Year is an auspicious occasion when we renew ties and rekindle joy with our loved ones. Hence, happy to see many families gathered together to usher the Lunar New Year at Kechara Penang and also appreciation for the guests that came from afar for this joyous occasion. By Jacinta
2 months ago
As H. E. The 25th Tsem Tulku Rinpoche has mentioned: The lunar New Year is an auspicious occasion when we renew ties and rekindle joy with our loved ones. Hence, happy to see many families gathered together to usher the Lunar New Year at Kechara Penang and also appreciation for the guests that came from afar for this joyous occasion. By Jacinta
People believe fireworks bring good luck and happiness. In welcoming lunar new year 2025, a burst of celebration with fireworks were set off at Kechara Penang Chapel too (sponsored by Mr. Ooi & family) . Kechara Penang members gathered around to enjoy this moment. Uploaded by Jacinta. 29th Jan 2025
2 months ago
People believe fireworks bring good luck and happiness. In welcoming lunar new year 2025, a burst of celebration with fireworks were set off at Kechara Penang Chapel too (sponsored by Mr. Ooi & family) . Kechara Penang members gathered around to enjoy this moment. Uploaded by Jacinta. 29th Jan 2025
Before puja, Pastor shared about consciousness beyond death, bardo and the stages of death. Hue and Betty (her brother) shared about the out of body experiences. These type of shared experiences offerred us opportunity to explore things from different perspectives. Thank you so much. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
2 months ago
Before puja, Pastor shared about consciousness beyond death, bardo and the stages of death. Hue and Betty (her brother) shared about the out of body experiences. These type of shared experiences offerred us opportunity to explore things from different perspectives. Thank you so much. Kechara Penang Study Group by Jacinta.
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