Have you lost the chance?
Though we may have the collective karma to get something, physically if we do nothing much and watch our lives waste by comfortably, then the open window could close on us. Nothing is static. Nothing stays, so we have to always be ‘aggressive’, consistent and pro-active.
~Tsem Rinpoche
Have you ever lost the chance on something because you just watch the chance go by and you really regret now? What have you lost? Share with me…
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Bonjour
Je suis parisienne. Lorsque j’avais 23 ans j’ai passé le concours du plus important conservatoire d’art dramatique de France. J’ai réussi le premier tour du concours, c’est à dire que j’étais reconnue parmi les 20 meilleurs sur 600 candidats Hélas,j’ai loupé le deuxième tour du concours et n’ai pas été reçue.Alors que je regardais le résultat de ce deuxième tour de concours sur un tableau et que je voyais mon échec définitif ( j’avais atteins la limite d’âge) Michel Bouquet, le plus grand et respecté acteur de théâtre français qui était dans le jury, c’est approché de moi et ma complimenté,ce qui veut dire qu’il avait dû se battre pour que je sois acceptée. J’étais tellement sidérée par sa parole que je n’ai pas eus le réflexe et l’audace bienheureuse de lui demander quoique ce soit d’intelligent pour bénéficier de son enseignement , comme auditrice libre par exemple.
Nous sommes en mai 2022 et ce Monsieur vient de mourir à 96 ans En regardant son hommage national à la télé , j’ai ressenti à quel point j’avais eue une grande chance qu’il me distingue devant de nombreuses personnes ce jour de concours et….j’ai aussi compris quelle incroyable chance j’avais laissé passer…..
When we have a second chance to start our life over. Never throw this opportunity away. As chances are only given once and once it slip away we will simply live with regret. A lifetime isn’t forever, so take the first chance, when given. Due to circumstances i lost a chance to go abroad to study , with no regrets . Letting go the past and now looking forward to the present , learning and practicing Dharma to benefit others. I have made the right choice and no turning back.
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing all the teachings with us.
There are no second chances in life, except to feel remorse. Chances are given only once I do believe. If there is, it will be a miracle or considered you are truly lucky. Once you lose it , there is no turning back. One always have a choice and chance, grab it when opportunity come or else it will be too late. Having it , appreciate it once for all before our time is out. Learning , practicing Dharma is the best choice
I have chosen even though I started late. Its never too late after all ,I found Tsem Rinpoche’s blog and since then it have changed my life.
Thank you Rinpoche with folded hands.
Those lost chances and who we could have been….The lost chances are lost but who we were supposed to be isn’t lost yet unless at our deathbeds.
I do not recall any great chances that I have lost. But, if I were to receive Buddhist teachings earlier, perhaps I will not want a family life instead! However, on second thought, I would not like to trade it away too (the experiences that I have gone through).
Yes, I’ve lost the chance. The chance to have an audience with Rinpoche directly…..
But I gained something precious too. The most precious moment was the day I connected with Rinpoche and I still treasure that till today. I treasure the gifts, advices, teachings, magical moments and so much more. Thank you so much Rinpoche.
❤️ May I transform my mind and be the better version of me so that when Rinpoche is back, I will not disappoint Him.
I have lost the chance to help to promote my course of study to the secondary school students. It was a once in a life time experience that my lecturer gave me the opportunity to organise a marketing campaign for my course that I studied. Because of he lack of confidence that I had in myself, i gave up the project without trying. Through that experience I understood that chances do not come easily, and if we do not take those chances to try, we will never be given a second chance anymore.
I can’t really recall any huge lost in chances I go. I rather not think about the lost too much but rather just pick myself up and move on. To me that is more important because whatever chances I lost, I think I made the decision to lose it in the first place by either not transforming, not realising it or not doing something about it, even watching it go by is also something we actually did.
Whether it is karmically meant to be or not is another question. And there are still many chances presented to us daily, it is whether we choose to ignore it or embrace it. I guess the question would be if you had another chance to turn back time what would be different? And know that there is still many opportunities out there waiting to be tapped if we are aware of it.
Yes, I have lost chances before but now no more losing chances. Lost the chance of doing much better with my life rather than losing it to nothing virtuous. I will not stand by and not do anything. I am so thankful to have the merits to meet Rinpoche and Kechara and that is the most important thing I have.
I had many many lost chances by thinking that there is still time to be ready to trained and transform. I hope that lost chances may not have to stay as it is forever. It will definitely be much more difficult to get it back once it is lost.
Well, the only thing I regret would be choosing samsara over Dharma work. I lost the chance to do the right thing in the past. While everyone excelled, I moved backward. NO more moving backwards… Am so sorry.. Sincerely.
Future tense is senseless. Wishes for the future is unsure. Be what you wish now. No one controls your body, speech and mind. So you don’t need to transform your body speech and mind in the future. Fortitude and tenacity is achievable now. if you don’t achieve it-then it is a choice. Pick the right choices. In real dharma with real dharma friends and real dharma work and real dharma environment, there is no future tense. We may not even be alive tomorrow. It is now. Your body, speech and mind is controlled by you..so don’t blame a third person that is fictitious. Don’t make your teacher a liar and Buddha not real..be here and now. Have the qualities now. You are in control of yourself. Your teacher is not a liar and there is a Buddha…Sarva Mangalam….Tsem Rinpoche
2 years ago I lost a chance to save a bird’s life when it was stranded on the side road and it has a broken wing. I am truly regret it when I turned a blind eye.
As for losing chances, i will rather think that actually is more on impatient and giving up is the factor due to losing chances. Don’t give up, the lost that you think is a lost might lead to a better start
Lost chances. Previously I think my problems is when the chances are here. I do not even realize it is a chance. Or, i might not prepared to the chances. Am i regret. I think i am not. I not regretting things that not belongs to me. But, after knowing Tsem Rinpoche teaching, i realized it is because of my ego and wrong view; thus, i “shut down” the thought or the feeling of lost when the chances go away. I learn now, to appreciate current situation, to treasure people around us.
With me I lost my childhood. I was both physically and mentally abused and didn’t have any time to do what I wanted to do (whether it was playing or learning anything I wanted to). My mom was very strict and religious (She believed that her religion was the one and only “way” and wouldn’t let me find the religion for me). She wouldn’t let me be a child, in her mind she expected more then what I could give her. Even to this day, she still tries to mentally abuse me. I also wish that I had the ability to find the dharma a lot sooner (when I was younger) and I wish I had the ability to practice it freely (when I was younger), However, I am glad that I have found that dharma and have the ability to practice 🙂
Dear Rinpoche, What a great question. Okay, here goes. Many many years ago (in the early 1970s) I was offered a chance to train with a famous art collector and learn how to be an art curator and collector in NYC. I was too scared to take the job, even though it paid well and was a fantastic opportunity. Why? Because I had no clue on how to say no to my fears, especially my fear of failure. What are your thoughts on this? With respect and warmest wishes, Elizabeth
I lost the chance to remain near my Guru. This is the most dramatical situation ever.
I lost the chance to begin Dharma practice when I was young. I had many opportunities over the years, but always ran away from them.
I lost the chance to buy 4d. Which I should buy after come out 3Rd prize. But I didn’t regret because I seldom gamble.Talking about Buddhism.I should have achieve more in understanding the principles and doctrine of Buddhism proclaim by Buddha. But I think the most important thing now is everyone should understand the principles and doctrine of Buddhism to attain Nirvana.