Liars Don’t Win | 说谎的人终将一无所有
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When we lie to our school teacher, we don’t respect the education we are receiving;
When we lie to our parents, we don’t appreciate their hard work.
When we lie to our spouse, we don’t honour our marriage and we are abusing them mentally;
When we lie to our children, they will not grow up well-adjusted.
When we lie to our girlfriend, we don’t respect her and we are using her;
When we lie to our boyfriend, we will not make a good partner.
When we lie to our friends, we are just using them and we don’t deserve friends;
When we lie to a person who has believed in us and has been kind to us, we are not kind but cold people.
When we lie to our work colleagues, we are not a team and we are trying to cheat ahead;
When we lie to our Guru, we are not genuinely spiritual because we are hiding.A person who lies to important people in their lives is capable of lying to anyone. A liar is someone whose level of selfishness will harm everyone around them wherever they go eventually.
How to trust a person who lies? Basically, a person who lies will never find peace, happiness and purpose in life. They will never be fulfilled but will keep giving up and running. They will have to run from one place to another. This will never end. They have wasted all their chances and will have many regrets. Life was not lived well and it will augment suffering. But, it’s not too late to completely change and turn it all around. It’s worth it to change.
~ Tsem Rinpoche
当我们欺骗学校老师，我们其实是在轻蔑我们所接受的教育；
当我们欺骗我们的父母，我们无异于糟蹋他们的养育之恩；
当我们欺骗我们的伴侣，我们视婚姻于无物，而且给伴侣造成精神伤害；
当我们欺骗我们的孩子，那就是上梁不正下梁歪；
当我们欺骗我们的女朋友，我们是在轻视她，在利用她；
当我们欺骗我们的男朋友，我们不会成为一个好伴侣；
当我们欺骗我们的朋友，我们其实是在利用他们，我们根本就不配拥有朋友；
当我们欺骗一个相信并且关怀我们的人，其实我们并非善类，反而是冰冷无情之人；
当我们欺骗我们的工作伙伴，我们就不是一个团队，我们是在尝试先发制人、愚弄他们；
当我们欺骗我们的上师，我们并非真心想要修行，因为我们有所隐瞒。当一个人可以欺骗他们生命当中很重要的人，这就代表他们有能力向任何人撒谎。无论去到何处，一个骗子的自私自利必将给他们身边的人带来伤害。
我们该如何相信一个骗子？总的来说，骗子心里永远不会安宁，不会拥有幸福的感受，更不会找到生命的意义。他们永远都不会感觉充实，反而会一直不断地事事放弃和逃跑。他们会无休止地从一个地方逃到另一个地方。他们浪费所有机会，留下许多遗憾。他们糟蹋生命，给自己徒增痛苦。尽管如此，亡羊而补牢，未为迟也。彻底改变自己是值得的。
～ 詹杜固仁波切
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We speck the truth , we are free and happy in way, but a lie will make us miserable and will not win.When we speck the truth ,we respect ourselves and others will respect us.It is easier to just be honest and straight forward than to lie. When people discover we lie, they will not trust us anymore.
We always expect others to do the right thing, but we ourselves didn’t want to follow. We cannot change people but we can transform ourselves not to be a liar. Thank you for good article.
Just a simple lie and someone will lose the trust in us. That’s how damaging lie is. When we lie, we do not respect another person. We lie because we want to cover up, hiding something that we are not competent, having bad intention and etc. While some may say that telling white lies is necessary to protect someone. While that maybe true but most of the time people lies with negative intention. As the action is negative which I believe it will also bring negative impact.
Therefore, we should always be aware not to engage in this action, as it will bring on another lie and there is no end to it. Thank you Rinpoche for this teaching and reminder.
The first thought that came to my mind when reading this was;
You’ve got to have good memories in lying!
In order to avoid being caught in the future, you have to remember what you’ve done or said right?
In reading this, I told myself that I should try to be truthful. Even though it’s hard but we have to do it. That’s how we can hold our vows well. Aren’t we the best examples for our kids or others? We always expect others to do the right thing, but we ourselves didn’t want to follow.
Besides, it’s hurtful for others to know that we have lied. We don’t like people to do that to us, don’t we?
I’m not sure what has prompted Rinpoche in writing this but I’m sure it’s not something positive or happy. I sensed frustration. I hope Rinpoche will always be happy. ?
Feeling sorrow to read what I’ve commented especially the last part.
#MayMyLamaAlwaysInGoodHealth
#WillRememberThisArticle
Thank you Rinpoche for sharing with us the teachings on lies. Sometimes it is due to our ego we lie because we want to look good. Sometimes it is due to our selfishness we lie because we want to get what we want.
When we lie, we are damaging people, we are hurting people, we are being unkind to people who love us. When we start to tell lies, we have to spend times to plot to make our lies a reality. We are creating more problems and stress to ourselves, we have to make sure our lies are not exposed.
It is easier to just be honest and straight forward than to lie. When people discover we lie, they will not trust us anymore. They will keep their distance away from us. Slowly, people will not want to be around us and we will end up lonely and miserable.
Some people i know in the dharma really love to twist and turn to their advantage. They lie to us and also lying to themselves . They just love to play “Tai Chi” with me when it comes to dharma work and commitment just because they are lazy. In the end it brings no benefit either way. Thank you very much Rinpoche and blog team for sharing this profound teaching.????
This reminds me of people who tells half-truth and expect others to trust them all the way. Half-truth are no better than lies. They expect others to read their mind, to accept them and worse they play mind games that hurts those kind heart.
We cannot change people but we can transform ourselves not to be a liar. Knowing loyalty is hard to come by and trust is easy to lose, we should treat people with honesty regardless of any situations. With dharma, we can start a new chapters with happy ending. Thank you Rinpoche for this precious teachings ??
Thank you Rinpoche for this sharing. True enough , we speak nothing but the truth. When we speck the truth ,we respect ourself and others will respect us. Telling the truth nor matter how hard is better than telling a lie after all sooner or later the truth will be out. We speck the truth , we are free and happy in way, but a lie will make us miserable and will not win. Its never too late to learn, practice dharma , transforming our mind to be a better person with no regrets when our time is out.