Blessing Su Ming’s grandmother
On July 15, 2010 I visited Suming’s grandmother. I wanted to say some prayers and just see her. We went in the evening and the visit took around 1 hour. The grandmother is very alert and very happy although she didn’t speak. The grandmother missed the husband so much. Over thirty years ago the husband told her to read the papers every single day so she will know what is happening. She faithfully followed her husband’s advice. Even now, grandmother cannot read anymore, but she insists on having the newspaper with her and hold it daily with her. She doesn’t want to forget her husband’s advice. Very poignant.
Along with the newspaper she must hold onto, she also holds onto a picture of her family. She never lets go of these two items and throughout the visit would smile at us often…
I did some prayers and noticed how affectionately the grandmother always looks at her two daughters. They have such a nice relationship.
Tsem Rinpoche
Offering some advice regarding the care of Mdm Han Nee and Mdm Chua’s mom. Mdm Han Nee and Mdm Chua are very loving and close sisters. They have a wonderful relationship together and really care for their mom very much. I saw how much they love their mother. Very nice. I met Mdm Chua over 18 years ago on my first visit to Malaysia. She is a very firm and loyal person. They are both very devoted members of Kechara.
Left to right, Mdm Chua (Suming’s mom), Suming, Grandmother and Suming’s Aunt Mdm Lim Han Nee. The grandmother holding the newspaper…it is her ‘link’ to her deceased husband.
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Su Ming is very lucky to have her mom and aunty practicing Dharma along with her. It is very rare to have a family that practices Dharma together. Three of them has been very devoted students of Tsem Rinpoche and they are very pleasant ladies who always show alot of care for others. Su Ming works full time for Kechara Buddhist Organization and she really goes all out in serving our Guru. Her mom is a very devoted lady who always cooks vegetarian food for the staff & volunteers and participates in all dharma activities such as puja. Mdm Han Nee is now a pastor in Kechara. She is very passionate on spreading the Gaden lineage & sharing Dharma knowledge to benefit others. Our Guru, Tsem Rinpoche is very skillful to guide everyone of us, to help us transform our negative habituations and be more selfless to care for others. It is very lovely to see Su Ming, Mrs Chuah & Pastor Han Nee in Dharma together. How i wish my mother is in Dharma with me. I believe my daughter & son will cherish the dharma journey that we are embracing together now.
It just brought smile to my face when reading through the lines and imagining how precious the moment would be like. This is heart warming to know that everyone of us should be thankful to our family members that are always there beside us when we needed the most as a support. Most importantly be grateful to our spiritual guide who shows us guidance, love and care even when he is around or is far away from us. Always keep in mind that, there’s a shelter when you open your heart to it.
Thank you Rinpoche and Admin for sharing such a wonderful post.
I feel very touched by stories like these sorts of stories. I really hope that Aunty Su Ming and her family will always live a happy life.
In 2007 before my mother was discharged from the hospital. I and my siblings went to look for nursing home to look after my mother as we couldn’t find anyone suitable. When I went to the home a few times I use to talk to an old lady who would be sitting in a wheelchair in the porch with her suit case packed like waiting for someone to take her home. She told me she is waiting for her daughter and son to take her back to Singapore. The staff of the home told me there was no such arrangement made by her family. My mother did not make it as she died in the hospital before she went to the home. One day I had a chat with Han Nee about this nursing home and the old lady who was waiting for her children to take her home was actually Su Ming’s grandmother. A caring mother who misses her children and wants to go home and be with her children.
This is such a nice connection.
Dear Rinpoche,
That night, your aura of great love and compassion enveloped all of us who were in the room. Our smiles reflected that aura of your love.
I still remember that my mum was so touched that she said “Kamsiah” to you(which is ‘thank you’ in Hokkien).
Yes, thank you Rinpoche, from the bottom of our hearts, for the great affection you showed my mum like ‘a mother for her only child’.
It was very kind of Rinpoche to make time to visit Su Ming’s grandma. Han Nee, Mdm Chuah and Su Ming have done such good work for Dharma, and the merits they collected would benefit their beloved mother/grandma and of course, many others. The love and devotion shown by their mum/grandma deserves our respect and admiration. She is a very blessed grand lady to receive Rinpoche’s prayers & blessings and to have her daughters and grand daughter giving her the care, love and attention she needed at this time of her life.
This is a very beautiful and moving story. Especially when I know Su Ming and her mum and auntie, Madam Han Nee. The three of them do share a very special relationship because they are all in Dharma.
As much as I would like to say differently, I can’t because it is very obvious how different a family behaves or act with one another when they have Dharma. A family without Dharma may be very close but the closeness is very different from one which is anchored in Dharma. And Su Ming’s family is one of such that is devoted to the Dharma because they have all experienced the true benefits of the Dharma that Rinpoche elucidates.
I bear witness to the kindness and generosity that Su Ming and her family give to those around them. This is one family who is firmly rooted in Dharma and hence, the smile on their faces is not just a mere smile but a reflection from the peace that they have experienced with Dharma.
Each of them, in their own way, gives a great deal of themselves to the Dharma and Kechara. Especially Su Ming. Watching her work and devote herself is truly inspiring. Hence, I am very certain that all their merits will go a long way to benefiting their loved ones, such as the grandma.
I can see that keeping promises must really run in their family as exemplified by the grandma’s devotion to hold onto the newspapers and the family photograph.
What a beautiful family indeed!
Nice sharing of a harmonious and happy family. How nice to have Rinpoche visiting, blessing and giving advice at the same time.
Thank You Rinpoche, for sharing with us regarding mrs Chua and Mdme Han Nee’s mother.
Their family members are so lucky, at their age the mother is still around them and they are been able to serve her. Wonderful news is that, the family members are doing Dharma Work, and dedicates to her before her last journey.
It’s very touching, she loves her late husband so much and follows his instructions all the way and loves her children so much by holding their family photo with her each day. Such a wonderful mother they have! I rejoice for them…
Love, angel
i am always touched by stories of harmonious and loving families – and then i wish that every sentient being will all be good to others just like he/she would love his/her family. i am so happy for Su Ming and her happy, loving family – i imagine they would ALL BECOME ENLIGHTENED together eventually!